Turn Around and Connect Emotionally
It’s no secret that marriage, in reality, is truly nothing like the movies. More than likely, he will not bring an expensive bouquet of flowers to the fancy restaurant dinner every night. Nor is it likely that the home you have worked so hard to keep clean will actually stay that way by the time the kids come home from school. This does not mean that marriage is not worth investing our time and effort into. In his book, “ The Seven Principles For Making Marriage Work,” John Gottman explains the notion that he called “turning toward” our partners. To “turn toward” our partners, we recognize what our partners are trying to “bid”. In otherwords, we recognize what our partner is trying to tell us and what they need, and act upon such in a positive manner. As an example, lets say your partner walks past the pile of dirty dishes in the sink with a load of laundry and grumbles under their breath, “oh man, I need to do those, too.” To turn toward your partner, you could seek their ...